How has your relationship been affected by Covid-19? How has it changed? Do you find yourself needing help in communication?
Many couples are facing the realities that came about due to the pandemic of Covid-19. Couples are finding struggles with their communication, boredom and too much time together. The pandemic has put a light on perhaps some strengths but also weaknesses that may be in your relationship. Couples counseling could be helpful to learn some new skills to help strengthen the relationship.
The objective of couples counseling is not to determine who is right or wrong and it is not to assign blame. The counselor does not take sides. Our job is to look at the relationship and help you both create solutions and learn new skills based on your unique needs as a couple. It involves problem solving in session and weekly homework assignments. If arguments do happen, we will do our best to intervene as necessary. Basically, there are no winners to an argument or at someone else's expense. We are here to teach you how to resolve conflicts with your own personal compromises.
Sessions typically are 45 minutes long and are preferred weekly, at most biweekly. Typical length of time is anywhere from 10-12 sessions. The first three sessions can be the most difficult but hang in there because change is possible if you’re willing to put in the work. There are no overnight miracles and it may take a few sessions to see the change. We ask that you make a commitment to hold off on making any big decisions, i.e. breakups/divorce until after 10 sessions.
Couples counseling is: neutral, structured, educational, a way to grow as a couple, make changes to improve the relationship, owning up to your own mistakes, forgiveness
Couples counseling isn't: about proving who's right and who's wrong, ganging up on anyone, "fighting it out", forcing change, proving someone wrong, blame.
You are not alone with the difficulties faced as a couple but that’s why as counselors, we are here to help. By coming for help, you have shown your love and commitment to each other. The foundation is already there, we just help improve the last 10% of change needed for a happy and healthy life together.